The most typical query I am requested by people making a primary enquiry about counselling is 'What type of counselling do you do?'
What's usually meant by this is, 'What sorts of problem do you provide counselling for?' Most counsellors and psychotherapists, myself included, do not specialize in one type of problem, as all problems or difficulties affecting emotions and thinking have similarities, and mostly reply to therapy in similar ways.
So the reply to the query 'What kinds of problem do you supply counselling for?' could be something like 'Difficulties with feelings and thinking', rather than specific single issues like, say, 'low self esteem', or 'worry of failure'. Most counselling and psychotherapy offers with the entire individual, and would not often separate off one thing they're thinking or feeling or doing.
This is only a common rule, however. There are some therapies which do specialise in explicit types of concern, usually ones which employ a specific resolution-based approach. Counselling for addictions is an apparent example, a specialism which usually entails a progressive, guided programme. Others may be bereavement or eating problems. Explicit part of the inhabitants, corresponding to young people or women, may also be identified as teams needing a specialist approach to some extent, however on the whole these use the identical methods as some other psychological counselling. The main difference may be that the agency has been set as much as deal with that individual difficulty or group, has obtained funding for it, and so focuses it's resources in that area. A person counsellor or psychothearpist could deal in a particlar area because it has particularly interested them, or they've carried out further training in it, or probably had explicit experience of the issue themselves.
What counsellors and psychotherapists mean once they speak of various types of therapy is the difference in the theoretical orientation of the therapist, not in the types of problem in which they specialise. There are a number or appraoches, broadly divisible into the three areas of Humanistic, Psychodynamic and Cognitve-Behavioural. Even a brief description of every type of approach and it's subdivisions is beyond the scope of this article. I will due to this fact limit it to the 2 predominant approaches which I make use of myself, Person Centred (a 'humanistic' approach) and Psychodynamic.
Person Centred Counselling and Psychotherapy
At the centre of the Particular person Centred approach is the concept that the Counsellor is a 'visitor' on the planet of the shopper's experience, with all that this implies relating to respect and trust.
The shopper is considered to be essentially trustworthy, that he or she is aware of somewhere, somehow, what they need, and that they've a want for growth. The counsellor might help carry these into awareness and assist the client to utilise them.
One other central idea is 'situations of price'. Circumstances are imposed early in life by which an individual measures their own worth, how settle forable or unacceptable they are. A simple example may be 'Don't ever be angry, or you'll be an unpleasant, shameful particular person, and you'll not be loved.' The message this carries could be something like 'If I am offended it means I am valueless, therefore I mustn't ever be angry.' The individual will inevitably really feel angry, possibly often, and conclude from this that they need to therefore be priceless, ugly, shameful. One other may be 'If you do not do well academically, it means you're stupid and you will be a failure in life'. This type of condition will tend to stick with the particular person indefinitely, and she or he might need been struggling for years to live up to what may be inconceivable situations of worth. If this form of internal conviction is delivered to light, and it's roots understood absolutely, it is likely to be that the person can see that it is not truly true, it has been put there by others, and my be able to move away from it.
The Particular person Centred Counsellor attempts to be 'with' the shopper as a form of companion. The Counsellor respecting and accepting the particular person, whatever they are like, will lead to the individual him or herself coming to really feel that she or he actually is settle forable, and coming into contact with a more real, 'organismic' self which has always been there in a roundabout way, however been hidden. They may then turn out to be more real, less preoccupied with appearances and facades, or living up to the expectations of others.They may worth their own emotions more, positive or negative. They might begin to enjoy their expertise of the moment. They might worth others more, and enjoy relating to them, somewhat than feeling oppressed, shy, inferior.
The Counsellor achieves this by making a local weather of acceptance within which the consumer can find him or herself. Certain therapeutic situations facilitate this, conditions laid down by the founder of this approach, Carl Rogers. These embrace:
The therapist's genuineness, or authenticity. This can not be just acted, it needs to be real or it is going to be worthless.
Total acceptance of the consumer, and optimistic regard for them, no matter how they appear to be.
'Empathic understanding', the therapist
really understanding what the shopper is saying, and, further, showing the shopper that their feelings have been understood.
Psychodynamic Counselling and Psychotherapy
Psychodynamic, or Psychoanalytic, remedy attempts to foster an interaction which consists of unconscious parts of the client. A complete lifetime's expertise, most powerfully what the person has discovered from his or her first relationships in early childhood, will decide the best way the consumer relates to others. This will come out in some type in the therapeutic relationship too, and the therapist must be aware of what forces and influences may be at work in the client.
This approach does not include that idea of 'free will'. It doesn't see our thinking, feeling and decision making as the results of aware awareness, but as the outcomes of many forces which are working beneath acutely aware awareness. The individual is appearing and regarding others largely as the end result of the instincts they're born with, together with what they have realized about themselves, largely via the nature of their shut relationships in early life.
The actual 'personality' is fashioned in the crucible of this early experience. If, for example, the principle carer of the child has not fed her properly, this will probably be laid down in as an anxiety. This may be merely about being fed, about getting enough to eat, or it might be extended by the toddler into associated things, reminiscent of trust (they have realized to not trust that meals, or the carer, can be there when needed), or insecurity about life basically, or a feeling of there all the time being something lacking. A end result may be overeating, say, or greed in other methods, for items, or neediness, anxious want for the presence of others, or one other. This is one example. There are myriad kinds of operations of this variety within the psyche, forming from birth, with all types of subtleties and variations. They are virtually all laid down in a stage of the person which will not be accessible to the aware mind, and are acted out unconsciously.